November Chapter Meeting Synopsis by Dr. Monica Epstein

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The topic of interest during our meeting on November 17, 2016 was “Working with High Conflict Persons in a Collaborative Case: Is That Possible?”  Our guest presenters were Attorney Sheldon (Shelly) Finman and Deborah Coe Silver, Psychologist, both practicing professionals from Fort Myers, FL.  The session involved the sharing of thoughts, ideas, and suggestions as to how the professional might manage High Conflict Persons (HCP’s) in a collaborative process.  Dr. Silver discussed the different personality disorders and awareness of behavior patterns one might expect to see in high conflict clients.  She added that three out of ten high conflict clients were likely to meet criteria for a personality disorder.  The presenters provided insight into how to best deal with high conflict clients and described a model they employed in their practice called EAR: Empathy, Attention, and Respect.  They frequently referenced the work of author Bill Eddy and his book, “High Conflict People in Legal Disputes,” available on Amazon.  The presentation was lively and included movie excerpts demonstrating the different types of behaviors observed in persons with specific personality disorder diagnoses.  Attorney Finman and Dr. Silver would be welcome guests at future TBACP meetings.

December 2016: Message From Your Co-Chairs

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What a terrific Christmas party!  Thank you very much Cole Jeffries and Sue Melendi for your wonderful hospitality, beautiful home, and great food and drink!  For those of you who missed it, it was a fun time and went deep into the evening.

On another note, David Harper and the Education Committee are working very hard on a landmark project.  An Advanced Training will be held on Thursday, June 8, in Tampa and will specifically be a high level advanced training for neutrals.  The top trainers in the world will be in attendance.  We expect a very large turnout from throughout the state, as this will be a “one of a kind” event  It is David’s committee’s hope that this will become a signature event for our group. The Advanced Training is co-hosted by TBACP, NextGen, and FACP.  Sponsorship opportunities are available, and details will follow.

Stann Givens and the Speakers Committee have expanded the list of civic organizations which might welcome us to speak to promote collaborative divorce.  He has emailed the list, so please let him know which groups appeal to you.  Stann has offered to create teams of a facilitator, financial and attorney to contact and present to each group.   This is a personal, compelling way to get the word out to professional centers of influence about collaborative divorce

At this Holiday Season, we express to you our appreciation for allowing us to lead this talented and supportive group.  Wishing you and your families the best for the Holiday Season and the New Year.

 

Very truly yours,

Tina and Ky

Member Spotlight: Dr. Tsila Kirsh

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By: Dr. Tsila Kirsh

What motivated you to join the collaborative movement?
I believe in collaboration in most things in life; for me it is part of my life’s philosophy so it was only natural that I wanted to be part of this movement . I was excited to work with teams and with different professions.
When did you first receive your collaborative training and from whom?
From the Miami Group in 2012(? I think or 2011).
What changes in your practice have you noticed since moving toward collaborative?
More forensic cases:-)
What is your best selling point when talking with potential clients about collaborative law?
The best thing that they can do for their kids , and if they do not have kids so for their future relationships. Simply put, collaborative divorce will increase their chances of divorcing peacefully with minimum negative effects.
What saying/motto would best describes you?
“Sabra”- tough and resilient outer layer but sensitive and warm inner layer :).
What is something that would surprise folks about you?
Love extreme outdoor adventures.
What would you be doing if you weren’t practicing in your current field?
Traveling the world, living with and studying different societies as an anthropologist.
Where do you see your practice ten years from now? 
I have learned the hard way to live for the day,  so for me this question is irrelevant.

Member Spotlight: Jennifer Ficarrotta

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By: Jennifer Ficarrotta, Esq.

What motivated you to join the collaborative movement?
I was motivated to attend a training simply for education and insight into a new process.  When I finished the advanced interdisciplinary training, I knew that collaborative divorce could be a better option for many families.
When did you first receive your collaborative training and from whom?
2011 or 2012 from Lonestar in Houston
What changes in your practice have you noticed since moving toward collaborative?
Collaborative has improved every facet of my practice.  I am more creative in traditional litigation, I am more educated in mental health issues, and my clients are demographically more diverse.
What is your best selling point when talking with potential clients about collaborative law?
Getting divorced through the collaborative process is the only way to end a marriage together.  It’s the last team effort before divorce.  What better way to create a successful post-judgment family than to end the marriage doing it differently, better, and together?
What saying/motto would best describes you?
Irrationally optimistic (according to those fancy psychological tests).
What is something that would surprise folks about you?
I love to fish.
What would you be doing if you weren’t practicing in your current field?
Right now, probably laundry.  😉
Where do you see your practice ten years from now? 
Right next to Caroline, Alex, Sarah, and Andrew!  I wouldn’t have it any other way!